I want to ask you a question, have you ever had a bad day? In episode 23 of the Breakthrough Babe Podcast, I am sharing insight based on a recent life experience I just had this week. I want to dig deeper into the definition of a bad day and what exactly that means. I also want to explore how we can break through those negative cycles we experience and ultimately, create a breakthrough day.
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In this episode, we are diving into how to break a negative thought cycle to create a breakthrough day. And for even more juicy details, listen to ALL of episode 23 of the Breakthrough Babe Podcast on your fave streaming platform.
Here’s what happened to me recently and how I broke out of a negative thought cycle. I was on the tennis courts and I was hitting like crap. I don’t think I’ve ever hit this bad in the last two years of doing tennis. I hit way too many balls into the net, start getting into my head, and I’m missing my shots. The first 30 minutes go by and I’m taking a water break, my coach says to me, “This is great, it’s great you aren’t having a good day because when you aren’t doing so well, that’s an opportunity to improve. What will happen in the match or real life, so to speak, you won’t have all the perfect shots. Your ability to turn this around is everything.” He also goes on to mention that everybody has a bad day once in a while, and it’s okay to have a bad day.
Those words triggered me initially, but when he told me I was having a bad day, immediately I thought to myself, I don’t have bad days. I might have bad moments, but not bad days. I walked back to the baseline determined, I asked myself what could I turn this bad day into? All of the sudden, it sparked a light bulb in my head where I thought to myself, I will turn this bad day into a breakthrough day. Every single time you feel like you’re having a bad day, ask yourself how you can turn it into a breakthrough day. What happens is that people say they’re having a bad day, but it turns into a bad week and a bad month, and it just snowballs to a negative thought cycle.
The highest performing athletes and entrepreneurs have resiliency and the ability to bounce back from a negative thought cycle. It’s just like in sales or business when you have a bad moment or a set-back, your ability and resiliency to turn it around are crucial. If you turn a bad moment into another bad moment, all of a sudden you’re facing a series of bad moments. Whereas, if you can break this cycle and bounce back almost immediately, the quicker you bounce back the easier time you’ll have winning.
I know this sounds almost impossible and you’re wondering how to even bounce back from these setbacks. For me, I broke the cycle and stopped thinking about what I was missing. So let’s say you aren’t making enough revenue, stop thinking about all the revenue you aren’t making. Instead, think about the possibility and opportunity. Don’t focus on the negative aspects, focus on the positive aspects. When I was on the tennis courts having my bad day, I shifted my mindset to start turning my bad day into a breakthrough day. When you start thinking more positively, you start getting more creative. I asked myself what if I can just prove that my thoughts can change my behavior?
Jen Gitomer gained her prowess in NYC as both a salesperson and award-winning sales leader for a Fortune 500 company. She left corporate America to fulfill her entrepreneurial dream. Jennifer helps entrepreneurs increase their revenue and profit through her proven sales strategies. In addition to the Breakthrough Business Babe Podcast, Jennifer co-hosts the Sell or Die podcast with her husband, Jeffrey.
She is the best-selling Author of Sales in a New York Minute – 212 Pages of Real-World, Easy to Implement Sales Strategies to Make More Sales, Build Loyal Relationships and Make More Money, the CEO and Founder of Breakthrough Business Babe and a master business growth coach. When she’s not working, you’ll find Jen planning her next Paris trip, taking a yoga class, playing tennis, or hanging out with her family and Cavalier King Charles fur babies.
When I was there on the tennis courts having my negative thought cycle, I started to shift and have great thoughts and I knew I’d have a breakthrough moment. Imagine if I had just thought I’m having a bad day so I’ll keep on having a bad day. Or, you go online to create an Instagram story but you feel upset because the person you wanted a coaching session with turned you down. Now you go on social media and your energy of being pissed off is radiating through everything you do. This is just fueling a bad moment that turns into another bad moment. Instead, you can take this as a lesson to create growth and something that up levels you.
When something is going wrong, all that means is that there’s an opportunity to grow and expand. If you start looking at bad moments like this, you’ll have a different perspective when things go wrong. This takes a lot of practice. When things are going well, it’s easy to have that perspective. When things are going wrong, it’s much harder to put this into practice. My challenge to you is to practice on little things, trivial things that don’t matter as much, that way when something “bad” happens you find the opportunity for growth and take the lesson the universe is trying to give you.
So here’s your breakthrough game plan: Catch yourself in the moment when you feel like you’re having a bad moment. Start asking yourself better questions and visualize a better outcome from that negative thought cycle. Practice it, feel the emotion, until you bounce back.
Don’t forget to tune in to episode 23 of the Breakthrough Babe Podcast. And if you love this episode, don’t forget to take a screenshot, share it on your Instagram stories and tag me @jengitomer so that we can spread this important message to even more entrepreneurs and biz babes!