Do you find yourself getting sabotaged by your own expectations? In episode 30 of the Breakthrough Business Babe Podcast, I’m sharing with you my golden framework on how to shift from negative vibration state to positive vibration state so that you can give yourself exactly what you need!
But before we dive right in, let me introduce myself in case this is your first visit. I am your host, Jen Gitomer, creator of Breakthrough Business Babe and author of the best-selling book, Sales in a New York Minute.
And it is time to make massive breakthroughs in YOUR business. With each episode, you are going to move past your fears of asking for the sale, learn to build deep connections that lead to meaningful business results, and master sales strategies that will help you grow and scale your business. Each week, I will be providing you with tips to avoid common mistakes in your business, teach hacks to help you grow and scale faster, and teach you to ALWAYS ask for the sale with confidence.
It is time for you, the Breakthrough Business Babe, to create more sales, income, and connections in your business. Let’s get started!
In this episode, we are going to dive into how to change your focus so that you can give yourself what you need through the golden framework I’m sharing with you today! And for even more juicy details, listen to ALL of episode 30 of the Breakthrough Babe Podcast on your fave streaming platform.
Today’s climate is CRAZY, there is a lot of tense and anxious energy going around the election in the country. And I keep remembering a guest that we had on the podcast I host with my husband, the great Daniel Burris. He said, “In times of uncertainty, focus on what you’re certain about.”
The truth is, there is a lot of crap in the air right now, but we have to keep our heads on straight and remember to shift our focus to where it actually matters: ourselves. Focus on yourself, focus on whatever you feel is going to help you be your best self, focus on YOU no matter what. You’re going to create the future that you want, no matter what the results of the election are.
Last week, I was at the beach and I’m starting to record resources for my course. Then migraines occur. Then construction noises. Then dogs are barking. Literally, everytime I started my recording, I had to stop and restart and the frustration and overwhelm started to kick in. It was even becoming too much for me, little miss sunshine optimist with a positive attitude embedded in my DNA. I mean, we’ve all been there, and you know it’s so freaking frustrating. The next day, I realized I was setting unrealistic expectations for myself. And I want you to think about that: have you ever set unrealistic expectations for yourself? Do you beat yourself up when you don’t meet these unrealistic expectations?
You’re probably shaking your head right now in agreement because Breakthrough Babes are high achievers, and high achievers are the ones who usually set these ridiculous goals. So I’m going to give you a framework on how to let go and release all the negative energy that comes with unrealistic goal setting.
First off, I want you to realize that these expectations are predictions of the future, and the fact that it is a prediction means it will always be uncertain. Unfortunately for us, our mind doesn’t like uncertainty. It feels uncomfortable not knowing the outcome. So it adapts by creating these expectations.
The problem then lies in the unfulfillment of these expectations because it pushes us to the negative vibrational state. And when we’re at this state, it pushes us further into the void of disappointments and negativity.
Jen Gitomer gained her prowess in NYC as both a salesperson and award-winning sales leader for a Fortune 500 company. She left corporate America to fulfill her entrepreneurial dream. Jennifer helps entrepreneurs increase their revenue and profit through her proven sales strategies. In addition to the Breakthrough Business Babe Podcast, Jennifer co-hosts the Sell or Die podcast with her husband, Jeffrey.
She is the best-selling Author of Sales in a New York Minute – 212 Pages of Real-World, Easy to Implement Sales Strategies to Make More Sales, Build Loyal Relationships and Make More Money, the CEO and Founder of Breakthrough Business Babe and a master business growth coach. When she’s not working, you’ll find Jen planning her next Paris trip, taking a yoga class, playing tennis, or hanging out with her family and Cavalier King Charles fur babies.
So what can happen if you just let go of expectations? What can happen if you refuse to fall down into the void of negative vibrational energy? What can happen if you decide to offer yourself awareness first? I’ll tell you what happens: you will give yourself grace, acceptance, and compassion like you would to a friend and you will happen 100% much better than before. So that’s our framework for today: awareness first, followed by grace and compassion for yourself.
And if you’re thinking, “It’s easier said than done, Jen!” I know! That’s why I recommend you use movement, whether dancing, running, or anything physical, that would help you release your body from that negative vibrational state to a calm, restful state. Once you do that, think about what you’re grateful for, think about your accomplishment, and think about the opportunities you have created for you and for others. This is the gratitude state, this is where we let go of all the damaging expectations for ourselves. And when you get to this state, you can flow more freely and create everything you want in your business. Ultimately, you’re going to live with a positive mindset, a happy life, and a profitable business.
When we hold ourselves to these expectations, we’re not being fair to ourselves.
So don’t let these expectations control you and your life. When you begin to let go of all the disappointments from not meeting your self-appointed expectations, all of your creative juices will flow, your alignment will be so much more in tune, and most importantly, you will change your focus from a solution-oriented mindset to problem-oriented mindset.
So here’s your breakthrough game plan: save this podcast and remember my message so the next time you feel like you’re holding yourself to unfair expectation, use my framework that I shared with you today.
Don’t forget to tune in to episode 30 of the Breakthrough Babe Podcast. And if you love this episode, don’t forget to take a screenshot, share it on your Insta stories and tag me @jengitomer so that we can spread this important message to even more entrepreneurs and biz babes!